Healing with Imaginary Animals

Healing with Imaginary Animals

After 40 minutes of energy work, we reached a very slow point. Energy would rise up to his left ear and then stop.

“You don’t have the energy to push the flow up over your head,” I told him. “Do you know what could be giving you low energy?”

He shook his head silently.

“We would save time if we could find out where the energy source is getting blocked. Do you like dogs?”

“No,” he said. He had never liked dogs.

“Funny,” I said, “I see one right by you. It’s a fluffy medium brown dog.”

“No,” he insisted. “I don’t like dogs.”

“I’m hearing that you don’t have a ‘place.’  Something about the age of ‘first through second grade.’ I see you looking at all the other children and feeling that they have a place and you don’t. Is this correct?”

His wife rushed to explain. An osteopathic problem had kept him in the hospital a lot during first and second grades. They wouldn’t even let his mother in to visit.

I saw his right side needed warmth. “The dog is nestling next to your right side in order to heal you.” I relayed to him what I saw. “And your left side near your lower ribs needs a frog.” I let the imaginary frog hop in.

“Under your right lower ribs, you need something. I think it’s a turtle. And under both feet you need some healing–Oh, here comes a rabbit and hedgehog!

“Your right upper chest and shoulder are also requesting help. It needs to be a ‘surrounding’ type of healing so I will use my hands from here, where I am sitting,” I continued.

“Look, I have not seen animals come to heal someone before,” I told him, a little surprised. “But I see they are doing the same energy work that I would have done with my hands.  Except… they are warming up your joints too. Do you like warmth?”

“Oh, yes!” he exclaimed. “Very very much!”

“We” all worked for about five minutes. I looked again and the man’s energy made a beautiful, free and clear loop from his left foot, over his head, and down his right side. No obstruction whatsoever. Whatever it was, was gone.




Guided Healing: Healing by Analogy

Guided Healing: Healing by Analogy

“I set before you Life and Death, Blessing and Curse. Choose Life…for you and your offspring.”   Devarim/Deut. 30:19

We follow false gods: misguided love, confusion, dysfunctional family patterns, fear. We befriend falsehood, emotional tyranny, emptiness, or self-effacement. We think we are doing so to survive, and survive well. But our bodies know better–and react with pain, blockage, and stress.

In Guided Healing, we step back and see our choices from a higher place. We affirm the good quality in us from which the misguided dysfunction emanates. We use the power of analogy: just as we can choose Death and Pain, we can choose G-d and Life. Just as we see someone else choosing G-d and Life, we can choose G-d and Life as well.

Analogies help release our Free Will to choose to abandon false loyalties. In exposing false gods for what they are, we return to truth, freedom, love, creativity, healing–and our true souls.


“My husband and father are trying to force me into a psychiatric hospital,” said “Dalia” over the phone. Dalia’s cousin, a client of mine, recommended she see me. This mother of 5 had had three breakdowns since the age of 16, in which she didn’t know where she was and became dysfunctional for long periods of time. Hubby and Dad wanted her treated “properly,” with drugs.

I knew that I must help her, that she needed my help, and that ultimately she would be a great healer herself. I thought back to a student formerly on drugs for being bipolar, but when she came to Midreshet B’erot Bat Ayin and found Torah and spirituality, she no longer needed her drugs. Dalia’s guardian angels were obviously asking for more than pills.

I treated Dalia for 2 1/2 hours. During the session, I was “told” that her breakdowns stemmed from an issue of abandonment by her mother. Indeed, it turned out later that her first breakdown at 16 happened during a 3-day high school tiyul shnati (field trip). Previously, she had been an A student, she said.

I looked back in time at her mother, her mother’s mother, her mother’s mother’s mother–trying to find one mother among Dalia’s ancestors who had been stable. Usually in an Ashkenazi family you don’t go back more than 4–or at most 7–generations before finding an intact family that can source generational love.

“I’ve gone back 12 or 13 generations on your mother’s side,” I told her, amazed, “and I did not find ONE generation that didn’t have a serious death.”

“Oh, yes,” she brushed off the information. “Didn’t you know that life in Yemen was very hard?”

I knew Yemenites ate an inedible fenugreek spread that was supposed to be so healthy the women would have babies into their 50s. What no one mentions is that so many Yemenite Jewesses didn’t make it to their 50s.

We continued to work and, just before my taxi arrived, her Third Eye opened.

She called me the following week from the psychiatric hospital. “What is the Third Eye?” she asked. I did my best in my 6th grade level Hebrew. “The Third Eye helps you see things in a deeper way, with more bina (understanding).”

I tried an example. “Let’s say you see a boy walking along. With your normal vision, you might just notice he is a boy walking. But with your Third Eye, you might notice that he is a good person, that he wants to do good in the world, and he is waiting for someone to show him how.”

“What if I see he is doing something bad?” she asked me nervously.

“You look at his qualities deeper, with your Third Eye,” I explained. “You tell him, ‘Oh, I see you are a good fighter. Did you know you can fight for good in the world, or you can choose to use your quality for bad–like to beat up small children.’ Then you help him direct his energies for good.”

This was simple. She liked it. But she still felt unsettled. “How will I know how to take care of my children?”

“How do you WANT to take care of your children?”

“With warmth, love….”

“What is stopping you from taking care of your children with warmth and love?”

“I am here, in this hospital….”

“Why are you in the hospital?”

“Because I don’t know how to function,” she answered, miserably. “What if I see myself doing something bad?”

Hashem had already provided the answer.  “Then you tell yourself, with your Third Eye: ‘I have this quality. I can use it for good or for bad.’ And then you tell yourself how to use it for good.”

She was smiling over the phone. She understood now. “When will I get out of this place?” she asked me.

“Ask your neshama.”

“My neshama says, ‘In a week.'”

“Ask your neshama why you will get out in a week.”

“Because I will request it,” she answered.

“Do you feel you will be able to leave in a week and take care of your children?”

“Oh, yes!”


Dina was worried what to do next. She wanted to go to India but was afraid.

“Why are you afraid of going to India?” I asked.

“I might stop being religious,” she replied.

“Why do you think you might stop being religious?”

“Because I had a religious friend who went to India and she came back non-religious.”

“Ask her neshama, from your heart to her heart, why she became non-religious.”

“She feels free,” answered Dina.

“What does she need to feel free from?”

“Oh, everything. She can do what she feels like now.”

“What can she do now that she couldn’t do before?”

“She says she feels ‘cool’ now.”

“Uh-huh. Ask her what else makes her feel cool. Maybe she is very intuitive?”

“Oh, yes, she is very intuitive. She helps a lot of people!”

“Ask her why she doesn’t use her intuition to feel cool.”

“She does.”

“Ask her how she would rather feel cool–act non-religious or use her intuition to help people.”

“She’s thinking.”

It was clear that our exchange had helped clarify values for our friend’s neshama. Dina seemed ready to go down a more fortuitous path. But there was more–an analogy….

“Dina, we just showed what you will do when you get to India. You will find Israelis there like your friend who have lost their way and are trying to find themselves. You will use your own intuition to help them return to Judaism and to their own neshamot.

“Wow, that’s exciting!” said Dina. “I am really looking forward to going now!”

Young Mother from Serbia

“Are you healthy?” asked a young mother in a worried voice.

“Yes, why?”

“Well, my grandfather is sick and I was worried you are too.”

Her logic eluded me but clearly she needed someone to talk to.

“I’m not sick but maybe there IS something to talk about. Would you like to find a shady place to sit?”

She nodded gratefully. Her grandfather back in Serbia was ill from alcohol. He beat her grandmother often and she was upset over this, but more upset that she might lose her grandfather to his illness.

“Why are you upset to lose your grandfather if he beats your grandmother?”

She thought for a moment. “Because if I’m not upset, then people will think I am disloyal.”

“Do you believe in G-d?” I asked.

“Oh, YES!”

“Then tell those people, from your heart to their heart, ‘I am extremely loyal. And from now on, I am loyal to myself, my family, and to G-d.'”

The redirect worked. We had affirmed her loyalty but only toward Good. She looked relaxed and happy. A proud and satisfied smile swept across her face as she felt her self-worth and her new freedom from others’ twisted and tyrannical demands on her right to choose to whom to be loyal.




Do Our Ancestors Still Love Us?

Do Our Ancestors Still Love Us?

Have you ever really thought about your ancestors? Grandparents–yes, but how about their grandparents, and their grandparents, back through the generations?

They are waiting for us–to do good in the world, to correct their misdeeds, to bring holiness and salvation to our entire family structure. In Family Constellations, we meet these souls and bring love and flowing gratitude naturally into our systems.

But did you know you can see or contact these ancestors in a Craniosacral Energy Healing or Guided Healing session? Here’s how it works:

You remember from Do Angels Heal? that angels often show up in the Craniosacral treatment room in order to help their loved one or witness their healing. These angels, as we saw, may be ancestors.

“Miriam” and “Yocheved”

Sometimes they come to deliver messages that they are embarrassed to say in person. Example: “Yocheved,” a student in one of my Craniosacral Energy Healing workshops, practiced on her partner “Miriam.” Now Miriam and her husband had been among the first Jews let out of Russia. When they arrived in Israel, they did not know if they would ever see their birth families again. However, perestroika happened and all their immediate family members were eventually reunited in Israel.

Yocheved did not know this story. Yet during the practice, Yocheved began to smile softly. Later she told Miriam: Your parents were in the room. I saw their hair but couldn’t see their faces. But I knew who they were. They want you to know how proud they are of you that you brought them and your entire family to Israel!

Feeling this appreciation was apparently very important to MIriam’s healing, but for whatever reason the message would not have been either delivered or accepted in real life. Miriam’s parents’ souls chose to have an emissary deliver the message during a Craniosacral healing session.

Who Visits?

Ancestors as well as significant others often show up during Guided Healing sessions (in person, by phone, or google-chat/hangouts). We described in Energy Healing: Is It Kosher? a recently deceased beloved grandmother, “Granny,” whose neshama (soul) would hover around the ceiling and give answers to long-sought questions that troubled my client. Normally it is the deceased mother’s mother’s neshama who comes to help but it can be any significant other, dead or alive. Frequent visitors to female clients are neshamot (souls) of mother or siblings; old boyfriends, still living; or deceased fathers–all asking forgiveness or volunteering love and appreciation that they failed to convey in real life.


The volunteerism is often astounding. We learn in Chana Luk’s Ohr HaEmuna healing to invite a troubling neshama in the room in order to fix some wrong between that neshama and the client. But here, in Guided Healing sessions, we deal only with neshamot who have already entered the room to help us, or who step forward from a group to help us when we ask for a volunteer. Sometimes so many neshamot are standing in line ready to help that their messages fill a one or two-hour session!

Neshamot & Their Personalities

Another astounding piece is how the neshamot communicate to us in their pre-death fashion.  The neshama of an impatient or suspicious person may communicate with us abruptly or in a withholding way until they trust us.

Yet their true love and concern, even of a suspicious person, will often come through in the end.  One such suspicious neshama was always present but rarely forthcoming without our initiating a lot of questions. Such encounters felt slow and unjoyous. Suddenly, one day, when we had not turned to her for a long time, we asked a question and she replied, in her still less-than-welcoming but nevertheless now-interested manner, “I was waiting for you to ask that!”  Of course she could have volunteered the information like a “normal” neshama, but that was not her way!

Channeling through One Individual for the Good of All

Which highlights how much the neshamot are waiting to help us and enthusiastically welcome our participation. In many families, my client is the only one who is willing to listen and so the ancestors must do all of the family’s helping and problem-resolution through that one individual.

Getting Stuck

Sometimes we have a question and no one is there to help or answer. We ask if we should proceed and, if yes, we ask, Is anyone available to answer this question?

Gradually we will see a scene of 3 or 4 rows of participants like in the old game shows on TV. Usually we will see a volunteer’s hand raised in the back row. Although it is not entirely necessary to know, we try to identify the neshama. Then we ask the question and proceed as normal.

Healing before Mashiach

What is the result of all this communication with neshamot? The first thing you notice is a feeling of peace, well-being, and liveliness in the client’s face. They know without a shadow of doubt with whom they have been in contact and know they have help from Shamayim (Heavens). Their slights and insults and neglect and other wrongs they have received in this lifetime have been forgiven through the visits of penitent and caring souls–and the true underlying love and endearment have been expressed in ways meaningful to the client. Their life has been set right.

So some neshamot come to seek forgiveness or to express love or to set things right. Others come to advise us of our current path (see Measuring Healing) or decision-making forks in the road. Still others, like “Granny,” offer repositories of past knowledge.  All these activities, and more, are necessary in these days preceding the Mashiach for us to heal, and heal well, with love and gratitude.

We have the power to change our family’s past and future. The ancestors’ hands are tied, so to speak, as they are no longer living in this world. All they can do is guide and advise. This they are more than willing to do–if only they can find among us living–someone who is willing to listen.



Can Babies Teach Adults To Speak?

Can Babies Teach Adults To Speak?

“The minute they approached your house, their baby started to relax,” said my friend, who had sent the family to me.  This was the baby who taught his father to “speak.”

The baby had recently begun some worrisome back-bending. The 10-month old would throw his head back, stiffly arching his body. A chiropractor’s diagnosis: slipped neck discs. Others had given equally unlikely opinions.

I worked on his energy as he sat playing. His energy was blocked not only at his neck, but throughout his body. So the neck was not the problem. The root lay elsewhere.

I tuned into the little one. “He says he needs a friend and that his heart is blocked,” I relayed to Mom.

“But how?” she countered. “I babysit two other children and he plays with the older one. He does not play with the younger one,” she added.

This was going to be a team effort. I invited both the mother and father to tune in and help me field Baby’s answers. I taught them to silently ask, from their heart to his heart, what they wanted to know. I went first to demonstrate.

“He says the older one hits him and this makes his heart closed,” I told them. “Having his heart closed stops his reaching out to the younger one, whom he feels needs a friend.”

Tears streamed down the mother’s cheeks. “It’s true that the bigger one hits him, but he seems to be OK with that. He does back away a little….

“This is really bothering him,” I told her.

“But the whole reason I am babysitting the two other children is so I can stay at home with my son, to give him a sense of security,” she said. She was clearly going to need her husband’s support, so I told BOTH parents to work TOGETHER to find a solution. This brought visible peace to both parents.

Dad had been attentive when playing with the child, but hesitated to communicate with him. Intrigued, he wanted to test this whole business further. “I am going to ask a question from my heart to his heart,” he said, as I had taught him, “But I’m not going to say the question out loud. Can you tell me what he answers?”

“Yes,” I replied. “Tell me when you are done.”

“Done,” he said.

“He says he wants to see animals,” I relayed.

Dad broke out into a big smile. “I asked him how I could be a better father,” he replied.

“And would taking him to see animals suit you?”

“Yes, that is really me,” answered Dad, happily.

“We have talked for a long time about getting a dog,” added Mom, enthusiastically. They were both thrilled with their new-found understanding of their son’s wishes.

But more than that, Dad now really believed in the authenticity of our communication with his son. He began asking more silent questions.

“Wow–he really answers me!” beamed Dad. In a family in which the main visible interaction was between Mom and son nursing, Dad now had a legitimate standing because he could equally communicate with his son and respond to his son’s deepest wishes.

Dad and I watched Mom and baby nursing. There was an awful lot of squirming going on. “He really doesn’t want to nurse,” Dad explained to Mom. “He is looking for something else.”

I agreed. He seemed to be looking for his mother, although she was right there beside him.

“Did he have a difficult birth?” I asked.

“Did he!” responded Mom. “He was an emergency C-section. And then they kept him away from me for a very long time.”

“I see,” I said, watching him back-bend away from her. “And so the back-bending–mother-seeking–probably started at birth?”

“Yes,” answered Dad, suddenly able to see the trend. They had just never made the connection before.

The treatment was over. Energy had been cleared. Thoughts and problems had been identified and allowed to start seeping away. Mom and Dad knew they could do this parenting thing TOGETHER.

I told Mom and Dad to call me in 6 weeks if there was still any problem. I never heard from them again. But I do know that a smiling Dad walked out of my home with two very important souls in his care–his wife’s and his son’s–and all the tools he needs to be there for them.





Energy Healing: Is It Kosher?

Energy Healing: Is It Kosher?

You may be asked whether the healing you do is kosher. Here are questions that I have asked rebbeim (rabbis) that may help:

Asking Questions of Neshamas Who Have Passed Away

Q: May we contact and ask questions of the dead?

Background: A young woman had come to me for sinus issues. She had been particularly connected to a grandmother who had recently passed. As we progressed in our Guided Healing session, I noticed someone who appeared to be the client’s mother’s mother hovering around the ceiling in the northwest corner of the room. She appeared to want to help, so I asked Granny questions directly and relayed her responses. I was getting remarkable answers when the young lady suddenly said, “We need to be careful about ‘contacting the dead.'”

It was clear that Granny wanted–I would say, was anxious–to tell us things but she didn’t volunteer them. We had to address her and ask her each question. It was our initiating the various parts of this back-and-forth conversation with Granny (who was already present in the room) that bothered the young lady as a halachic question.

A: Rabbi Daniel Kohn, Rav of Bat Ayin

Rav Daniel said it was fine–that the Lubavitcher rebbe used to go to his father’s grave to ask questions. If our asking her questions was how Granny wanted to communicate with us, it was entirely fine to do it her way.

The issur (prohibition) about “contacting the dead” is specifically about the yedoni–which involves rattling certain bones to raise the dead.

Are Family Constellations Kosher?

Q: Are Family Constellations kosher? After all, it seems like contacting the dead.

A: Rabbi Daniel Kohn, Rav of Bat Ayin

Yes, it is fine. [Rav Daniel explained that he has personally experienced a Family Constellation-like mode in which you act as a representative for someone else, and when you are done, you just return to your normal self.]

Q: But maybe it is avoda zara?

A: How can it be avoda zara? You are not bowing down to anything.


What Is Energy Healing?

What Is Energy Healing?

In Energy Healing, we tune into the energy of the body or situation and wait for directions. With humility, a light touch, a pure desire to help, and a lot of practice–the gifted therapist will know how to help the body self-correct, the mind reach truth, the soul fly.  When people come to me, their body and soul have been making a laundry list of whatever they want to work on: in priority order. We will not know how the body, mind, and soul want to heal. Sometimes a craniosacral session turns into guided healing and ends with an individual family constellation. Or the opposite! Body, mind, and soul will always interrupt the session (I call it “high-jacking”) to get done what they came for!

Some clients will find that their shoulder suddenly feels better. Others will get answers to whatever they need to focus on. Often the healing is on a more foundational level than the client thought to deal with–and the results more far-reaching….

It is hard to speak of deep healing without talking about God! If I help heal people’s conflicts and misconceptions in ways that speak to them, make sense to them, comfort them, and strengthen their unique capabilities and journeys–then it is natural that, once the body and emotions are soothed, clients find they can connect better to themselves and their Divinity.

Guided by the unseen world, we can navigate–even benefit from–life’s ups and downs.