Healing as G-d’s Love

Healing as G-d’s Love

It began as a typical craniosacral session–my client lying quietly on the massage table. But as I placed my hands under her occiput and sacrum, she suddenly burst into tears. “Don’t worry,” she said. “You didn’t do anything wrong. These are tears of joy. “Morning and afternoon, morning and afternoon….I have asked G-d to show me His Love.”  She lifted her arms heavenward, exuberant. “And now, I feel His Love!” She turned toward me. “I think your mission as a healer is to connect people to G-d!” she said. I was a bit stunned. Her advice rang true and was even exciting but…I had to travel halfway around the world, from Israel to Seattle, to learn my mission? Could no one in Israel tell me? Yet I learned in that session what underlies all things. When we remove peoples’ physical and emotional blocks, all that’s left is G-d–and His love with which He created and sustains us and the world. Stages of Healing We as healers see this happening in stages. First the body releases tension and feels more relaxed. Falsehoods and fears fall away and the wonder of who we are is revealed and comes alive and is true for us. And then…the opening to natural connection with the spiritual world. (You can read more at Do Angels Heal). Healing Session Over This wonder in our clients’ shining faces signals us that the session is over–that we have reached maximum and prescribed healing for that day.  Brandon Bays calls it the moment of Shining Eyes–when the healing session is complete. To me, it’s like the client drops the black cloud and takes up the rainbow.

The client drops the black cloud and takes up the rainbow.

The Veil Brigitte Stzab, Family Constellations teacher, once asked me, “Don’t you feel the veil [between the physical and spiritual worlds] is getting thinner?” To be perfectly honest…I’m an Aquarius. What veil? I often feel like I walk around Up There like someone strolling through a garden. And that’s why it’s important for me to lend a hand to others who need to be Up There too.

Healing with Imaginary Animals

Healing with Imaginary Animals

After 40 minutes of energy work, we reached a very slow point. Energy would rise up to his left ear and then stop.

“You don’t have the energy to push the flow up over your head,” I told him. “Do you know what could be giving you low energy?”

He shook his head silently.

“We would save time if we could find out where the energy source is getting blocked. Do you like dogs?”

“No,” he said. He had never liked dogs.

“Funny,” I said, “I see one right by you. It’s a fluffy medium brown dog.”

“No,” he insisted. “I don’t like dogs.”

“I’m hearing that you don’t have a ‘place.’  Something about the age of ‘first through second grade.’ I see you looking at all the other children and feeling that they have a place and you don’t. Is this correct?”

His wife rushed to explain. An osteopathic problem had kept him in the hospital a lot during first and second grades. They wouldn’t even let his mother in to visit.

I saw his right side needed warmth. “The dog is nestling next to your right side in order to heal you.” I relayed to him what I saw. “And your left side near your lower ribs needs a frog.” I let the imaginary frog hop in.

“Under your right lower ribs, you need something. I think it’s a turtle. And under both feet you need some healing–Oh, here comes a rabbit and hedgehog!

“Your right upper chest and shoulder are also requesting help. It needs to be a ‘surrounding’ type of healing so I will use my hands from here, where I am sitting,” I continued.

“Look, I have not seen animals come to heal someone before,” I told him, a little surprised. “But I see they are doing the same energy work that I would have done with my hands.  Except… they are warming up your joints too. Do you like warmth?”

“Oh, yes!” he exclaimed. “Very very much!”

“We” all worked for about five minutes. I looked again and the man’s energy made a beautiful, free and clear loop from his left foot, over his head, and down his right side. No obstruction whatsoever. Whatever it was, was gone.




Energy Healing: Tip of the Iceberg?

Energy Healing: Tip of the Iceberg?

Jumpstarting Healing

If we were standard health practitioners, we would want to know four things:

  1. What are we treating?
  2. How should we treat it?
  3. How long will it take?
  4. How long will the heaing last?

As a deep healing practitioner, I start and stop with Step 2. I never get to Steps 1, 3, or 4. How can I help you? I ask the body. Then I do what the body tells me– with no preconceived notions about what we are working on, how long it will take, or how long it will last.

This is because the body and soul need only a jumpstart to heal. They will continue their work far after the client has left the treatment session.

The body and soul only need a jumpstart to heal. They will continue their work far after the client has left the treatment session.

What Are We Treating?

First, what are we treating? We are actually treating a vacuum, in that we are reviving the soul’s right to free choice and independent healing.

We are reviving the soul’s right to free choice and independent healing.

We are not treating the body but rather the body’s absence of support from its friends–and its results. This may be due to an unfriendly environment or something blocking the body’s ability to receive the healing already available.

If the body had had support from its friends, it would have already healed.

How Long Will It Take?

Second, how long will it take?

Some things are already known. A standard Craniosacral Therapy treatment can continue for two days after the client leaves. Example:

“Even after you finished, I felt toxins pouring out of my body.”

But how long after those two days will healing continue to unfold? And what levels of healing will have been reached when the healing runs its course?

Most healing is immediate and felt on the massage table or shortly afterward in its physical, emotional, or spiritual form. However, sometimes a deep healing gradually evolves from a physical release to an emotional or spiritual one and is appreciated only months later:

“In the past four months, I have reached a positive spiritual and emotional state that I have never been in before–such a blessing during my husband’s deployment [overseas]. It’s helped me get through it with strength and happiness. I attribute a lot of this switch in me to the experience I had with Craniosacral. I didn’t realize until recently how much of a transformation had actually occurred. Is this really a possible outcome of opening up energy pathways in my body? I can’t figure out any other reason. I really feel that Hashem [God] sent you as a little shaliach [messenger] to bring me to a place that I was meant to be in during this stage in my life. Thank you!”     Mother of Three Young Children

How Long Will the Healing Last?

Sometimes healing is permanent. One client’s ADD did not return after her single Craniosacral Energy Healing session, and another client’s osteoporosis disappeared permanently after one Guided Healing session.

However, sometimes healing remains incomplete to remind us that the basic healing hasn’t been completed.

I had a client who couldn’t raise his arm in front of him. One session of Craniosacral Energy Healing fixed the arm and he was able to sleep. But only for 3 days. This is because he did not fix the attitude that his body was trying to call his attention to in the first place, to whit–he needed to be planning to teach courses in England.  A second client had decades-long back pain that disappeared after a single session of Craniosacral Energy Healing. It returned later in order to have its source eradicated by a single Family Constellation. Since the Constellation, she has had no more back pain.

Like Craniosacral Energy Healing, Family Constellations create ongoing healing in ever-deepening realms. A Family Constellation needs 6 weeks to solidify its healing from the heart out. You don’t talk about the meanings in your Family Constellation for 40 days. (40 days is one and a half moon cycles, according to Teacher Vlado Ilic.)  In talking and intellectualizing about–mentally analyzing–your Constellation’s meaning, you will dissipate the energy of the heart’s healing as you bring it into the heartless realm of mind and words. The heart has seen a new and more truthful reality, and it, as well as other phases of your life and soul, needs these 40 days to strengthen and to adjust.

Likewise, we don’t do any homeopathy or any other treatment of the issue dealt with in the Constellation for 40 days, since these remedies might change the course of the healing that you began with the Family Constellation.



Do Our Ancestors Still Love Us?

Do Our Ancestors Still Love Us?

Have you ever really thought about your ancestors? Grandparents–yes, but how about their grandparents, and their grandparents, back through the generations?

They are waiting for us–to do good in the world, to correct their misdeeds, to bring holiness and salvation to our entire family structure. In Family Constellations, we meet these souls and bring love and flowing gratitude naturally into our systems.

But did you know you can see or contact these ancestors in a Craniosacral Energy Healing or Guided Healing session? Here’s how it works:

You remember from Do Angels Heal? that angels often show up in the Craniosacral treatment room in order to help their loved one or witness their healing. These angels, as we saw, may be ancestors.

“Miriam” and “Yocheved”

Sometimes they come to deliver messages that they are embarrassed to say in person. Example: “Yocheved,” a student in one of my Craniosacral Energy Healing workshops, practiced on her partner “Miriam.” Now Miriam and her husband had been among the first Jews let out of Russia. When they arrived in Israel, they did not know if they would ever see their birth families again. However, perestroika happened and all their immediate family members were eventually reunited in Israel.

Yocheved did not know this story. Yet during the practice, Yocheved began to smile softly. Later she told Miriam: Your parents were in the room. I saw their hair but couldn’t see their faces. But I knew who they were. They want you to know how proud they are of you that you brought them and your entire family to Israel!

Feeling this appreciation was apparently very important to MIriam’s healing, but for whatever reason the message would not have been either delivered or accepted in real life. Miriam’s parents’ souls chose to have an emissary deliver the message during a Craniosacral healing session.

Who Visits?

Ancestors as well as significant others often show up during Guided Healing sessions (in person, by phone, or google-chat/hangouts). We described in Energy Healing: Is It Kosher? a recently deceased beloved grandmother, “Granny,” whose neshama (soul) would hover around the ceiling and give answers to long-sought questions that troubled my client. Normally it is the deceased mother’s mother’s neshama who comes to help but it can be any significant other, dead or alive. Frequent visitors to female clients are neshamot (souls) of mother or siblings; old boyfriends, still living; or deceased fathers–all asking forgiveness or volunteering love and appreciation that they failed to convey in real life.


The volunteerism is often astounding. We learn in Chana Luk’s Ohr HaEmuna healing to invite a troubling neshama in the room in order to fix some wrong between that neshama and the client. But here, in Guided Healing sessions, we deal only with neshamot who have already entered the room to help us, or who step forward from a group to help us when we ask for a volunteer. Sometimes so many neshamot are standing in line ready to help that their messages fill a one or two-hour session!

Neshamot & Their Personalities

Another astounding piece is how the neshamot communicate to us in their pre-death fashion.  The neshama of an impatient or suspicious person may communicate with us abruptly or in a withholding way until they trust us.

Yet their true love and concern, even of a suspicious person, will often come through in the end.  One such suspicious neshama was always present but rarely forthcoming without our initiating a lot of questions. Such encounters felt slow and unjoyous. Suddenly, one day, when we had not turned to her for a long time, we asked a question and she replied, in her still less-than-welcoming but nevertheless now-interested manner, “I was waiting for you to ask that!”  Of course she could have volunteered the information like a “normal” neshama, but that was not her way!

Channeling through One Individual for the Good of All

Which highlights how much the neshamot are waiting to help us and enthusiastically welcome our participation. In many families, my client is the only one who is willing to listen and so the ancestors must do all of the family’s helping and problem-resolution through that one individual.

Getting Stuck

Sometimes we have a question and no one is there to help or answer. We ask if we should proceed and, if yes, we ask, Is anyone available to answer this question?

Gradually we will see a scene of 3 or 4 rows of participants like in the old game shows on TV. Usually we will see a volunteer’s hand raised in the back row. Although it is not entirely necessary to know, we try to identify the neshama. Then we ask the question and proceed as normal.

Healing before Mashiach

What is the result of all this communication with neshamot? The first thing you notice is a feeling of peace, well-being, and liveliness in the client’s face. They know without a shadow of doubt with whom they have been in contact and know they have help from Shamayim (Heavens). Their slights and insults and neglect and other wrongs they have received in this lifetime have been forgiven through the visits of penitent and caring souls–and the true underlying love and endearment have been expressed in ways meaningful to the client. Their life has been set right.

So some neshamot come to seek forgiveness or to express love or to set things right. Others come to advise us of our current path (see Measuring Healing) or decision-making forks in the road. Still others, like “Granny,” offer repositories of past knowledge.  All these activities, and more, are necessary in these days preceding the Mashiach for us to heal, and heal well, with love and gratitude.

We have the power to change our family’s past and future. The ancestors’ hands are tied, so to speak, as they are no longer living in this world. All they can do is guide and advise. This they are more than willing to do–if only they can find among us living–someone who is willing to listen.



Can Babies Teach Adults To Speak?

Can Babies Teach Adults To Speak?

“The minute they approached your house, their baby started to relax,” said my friend, who had sent the family to me.  This was the baby who taught his father to “speak.”

The baby had recently begun some worrisome back-bending. The 10-month old would throw his head back, stiffly arching his body. A chiropractor’s diagnosis: slipped neck discs. Others had given equally unlikely opinions.

I worked on his energy as he sat playing. His energy was blocked not only at his neck, but throughout his body. So the neck was not the problem. The root lay elsewhere.

I tuned into the little one. “He says he needs a friend and that his heart is blocked,” I relayed to Mom.

“But how?” she countered. “I babysit two other children and he plays with the older one. He does not play with the younger one,” she added.

This was going to be a team effort. I invited both the mother and father to tune in and help me field Baby’s answers. I taught them to silently ask, from their heart to his heart, what they wanted to know. I went first to demonstrate.

“He says the older one hits him and this makes his heart closed,” I told them. “Having his heart closed stops his reaching out to the younger one, whom he feels needs a friend.”

Tears streamed down the mother’s cheeks. “It’s true that the bigger one hits him, but he seems to be OK with that. He does back away a little….

“This is really bothering him,” I told her.

“But the whole reason I am babysitting the two other children is so I can stay at home with my son, to give him a sense of security,” she said. She was clearly going to need her husband’s support, so I told BOTH parents to work TOGETHER to find a solution. This brought visible peace to both parents.

Dad had been attentive when playing with the child, but hesitated to communicate with him. Intrigued, he wanted to test this whole business further. “I am going to ask a question from my heart to his heart,” he said, as I had taught him, “But I’m not going to say the question out loud. Can you tell me what he answers?”

“Yes,” I replied. “Tell me when you are done.”

“Done,” he said.

“He says he wants to see animals,” I relayed.

Dad broke out into a big smile. “I asked him how I could be a better father,” he replied.

“And would taking him to see animals suit you?”

“Yes, that is really me,” answered Dad, happily.

“We have talked for a long time about getting a dog,” added Mom, enthusiastically. They were both thrilled with their new-found understanding of their son’s wishes.

But more than that, Dad now really believed in the authenticity of our communication with his son. He began asking more silent questions.

“Wow–he really answers me!” beamed Dad. In a family in which the main visible interaction was between Mom and son nursing, Dad now had a legitimate standing because he could equally communicate with his son and respond to his son’s deepest wishes.

Dad and I watched Mom and baby nursing. There was an awful lot of squirming going on. “He really doesn’t want to nurse,” Dad explained to Mom. “He is looking for something else.”

I agreed. He seemed to be looking for his mother, although she was right there beside him.

“Did he have a difficult birth?” I asked.

“Did he!” responded Mom. “He was an emergency C-section. And then they kept him away from me for a very long time.”

“I see,” I said, watching him back-bend away from her. “And so the back-bending–mother-seeking–probably started at birth?”

“Yes,” answered Dad, suddenly able to see the trend. They had just never made the connection before.

The treatment was over. Energy had been cleared. Thoughts and problems had been identified and allowed to start seeping away. Mom and Dad knew they could do this parenting thing TOGETHER.

I told Mom and Dad to call me in 6 weeks if there was still any problem. I never heard from them again. But I do know that a smiling Dad walked out of my home with two very important souls in his care–his wife’s and his son’s–and all the tools he needs to be there for them.





Hijackings: Does the Body Have a Mind of Its Own?

Hijackings: Does the Body Have a Mind of Its Own?

“Take turns feeling your partner’s craniosacral rhythm!” called Teacher brightly.

It was Day 1, Craniosacral Therapy I. And we were terrified.

“You are all looking at me in disbelief,” she continued. “But you really will feel the rhythm. And if you don’t,” she advised, “Just INVITE the craniosacral rhythm into your hands and say ‘PLEEEEASE, I’m new at this! Please make the craniosacral rhythm REALLY BIG so I can notice it!'”

To Teacher’s credit, we did all feel the craniosacral rhythm. Tuning in, the rhythm felt as large as a giant jump rope game in which a kid at each end raises the rope up and down in a huge sine-wave.

And once you can feel the craniosacral rhythm, you can diagnose. Body parts with a strong, clear rhythm are fine. Parts with no rhythm are blocked and need help. We learned the 10 Step Protocol to release blocks. But something extra was also at work….

“When you test the sphenoid bone,” added Teacher, “REQUEST the sphenoid to lower itself to its full range.”  We did.

“When you listen to the body,” Teacher explained, “the body says, ‘FINALLY! Someone’s FINALLY listening to me!’ and it starts to self-correct and heal on its own….” We practiced feeling the body self-correct.

But I had a huge question.  “Invite” the craniosacral rhythm into your hands? “Ask” it to be REALLY BIG? “Request” the sphenoid to lower itself? Watch the body “self-correct on its own”?…. My hand shot up.

“What’s the difference between this and energy healing?” I asked.  Teacher didn’t answer me (although she didn’t kick me out of class either). But I noticed that what cured my clients was not how well I had memorized the cranial bones, soft tissues, other anatomy, nor the 10 Step Protocol. What cured my patients was that I LISTENED.  I followed their self-correcting with my hands–and where there was resistance or lack of instruction, I asked the body or neshama (soul) what it wanted.

Soon a strange Hijacking Protocol replaced the 10 Step Protocol. “On your way here,” I tell clients, “Your body made a laundry list of what it REALLY wants to work on–and in what order. It did this because it knows I listen.

“Now if I were a chiropractor, and you came to me with some vertebra out of place, I might correct the vertebra and send you home. But maybe the correction would hold only a day or two because your spine was responding to a hidden foot imbalance linked to a muscle strain in your lower back, which caused pressure on your head–which I didn’t correct. Even if I knew exactly what to correct, I might not know in which order to correct it. So I let your body tell me!

“We will begin the standard 10 Step Protocol but at some point your body will show me where it really wants my hands and what it really wants to work on. I call this ‘hijacking.'”

Hijacking may feel like the body is magnetically drawing your hands to a certain place. Or it will illuminate, or draw your attention to, a problem-area. Or you may feel your hands being asked to air-massage a certain blockage or push on some acupuncture point.

And the opposite is true. Teacher told us that when done at a certain location, you may feel the body “push” your hand away. Or I may sense that the urgent request for my hands has evaporated. And so I ask the body for its next instructions.

However the body chooses to communicate, the body wants this: not only someone to listen to it (“finally”); the body wants a friend to walk its walk. Together. Sometimes clients’ bodies tell me to just sit quietly by their side, maybe give a light touch here or there, and to wave stuck energy to the correct places or to their release sites, and wait. And wait. Sometimes I have spent 45 minutes sitting quietly by a body as it self-corrects. I am often asked not to touch the body at all, because the self-correction is moving so fast that my touch would slow it down. This technique effects remarkable cures in just one or two sessions.

In order to hear the body, I ask the client not to tell me anything. “If I can’t tell YOU what is wrong, I am not doing my job!” I say. The stories on my Craniosacral page unfolded with no client input.

We work in the dark much of the time, trusting the Unseen. Often the healing’s depth will be recognized only weeks or months later (see Energy Healing: Tip of the Iceberg?). And most of my clients I will not see again, because when we listen and get to the problem’s root the first or second visit, there is no need for a third or fourth visit.

Is Craniosacral Therapy a physical healing or an energetic healing? I say both. The body knows when to emphasize the physical or energetic side for each stage of its healing. All we do is listen.